By Teena Embaugh, Third-Culture Kid care specialist — Developing Play-Doh Expectations means keeping your plans flexible and able to take on new shapes as they hit the hard wall of reality. (Read more about Play-Doh Expectations.) We routinely teach this valuable concept to Third-Culture Kids, who live with their missionary parents in a country other than their passport country. But this year, COVID-19 has upended plans and shattered expectations everywhere. Missionary or not, we all can benefit from Play-Doh Expectations.
Changed plans and unmet expectations can be particularly painful when they affect longstanding traditions like holiday celebrations. You or your children may be expecting Christmas to be the way it always has been. But, because of COVID safety restrictions, that might not be possible. What could Play-Doh Expectations look like this holiday season?
I absolutely am not the expert at this, as I am walking this same journey with all of you, but I would like to humbly suggest a few ideas that I’m trying to put into practice in my own life.
Ask the Lord to show you ways you may be making promises to yourself or your kids that you can’t keep in regards to how you will celebrate the holidays. For most of us, our hard wall of reality is that we DO have limitations that are going to affect our usual ways of celebrating. I love to spend the holidays with my family and friends, in person, giving hugs, going shopping, and taking cookies to all our neighbors. Most of those traditions are not going to happen this year, and I have had to quit holding to the expectation that I can force them to happen. I start by praying about it, asking for the Lord’s insight, and then honestly acknowledging that many of my expectations are not going to be met.
I hope these ideas will help us all do more than just “get through” the holidays. Instead of focusing on the sadness or frustration about what we are missing, perhaps by cultivating Play-Doh Expectations, we can experience a deeper sense of joy, a deeper appreciation for the traditions we’ve enjoyed in the past, and a deeper thankfulness for Jesus, God with us, the real reason for this season.
Read about Play-Doh Expectations and the Bible.